“Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.”
– Deborah Day
This quote speaks the truth. Often, we ignore spending quality time with ourselves, arguing that we have more important things to do. In reality, taking time to enjoy things by ourselves can make us better parents, spouses, daughters, sisters, neighbors, friends, humans… ok you get the point.
Finding time to spend alone is difficult. I am sure you have heard people say, “You have to schedule it,” and that’s true. BUT there are other habits that can help you have more alone time. Here are 5 Ways to Make Time For Yourself.
1. Ask for Help
You are not an island. You do not have to do this thing called life alone. When you need time – whether that is 10 minutes to shower or 4 hours to watch the new Avengers movie – ask someone to help you achieve that time alone. Ask your husband to watch the kids while you take care of yourself. Ask a neighbor or a friend to help you with after-school care so you can nourish yourself. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of self-respect.
2. Learn to Say No
From work to kid’s school to extended family obligations, you may feel there are many expectations put upon you. Have you been asked to help out at the school again, or are you consistently taking on extra work for a co-worker? Perhaps you are taking on too much out of fear of saying NO. So, say no when you feel overwhelmed and overbooked. Say no if you REALLY don’t want to do an activity. Say no if it interferes with something you already had scheduled for yourself. You are a human BEing, not a human DOer.
3. Hire Three Baby-Sitters
How often have you tried to arrange some “me time” or even a date night, only to have your babysitter unavailable? Don’t rely on just one. Have at least three people you can call when you need childcare. They can be neighbors, friends with other children (babysitting swap!), or friends of your current babysitter.
4. Find an Addicting Hobby
Alone time can be productive, relaxing, energizing, and nourishing. But you have to WANT to make room for it in your schedule. So, find an addicting habit that makes you want to schedule alone time. Take up running, biking, or hiking. Try cross-stitching, knitting, or reading. Find a hobby that calls your name constantly so that you are excited to take the time to do it alone.
5. Meet Your Tribe
We all need a support system of other like-minded individuals. We need to be surrounded by people who understand where we are in life, or maybe where are kids are in development. You need to find people who make you happy to be around, who are willing to help you when you reach out, and who encourage you to make yourself a better human. Your tribe should support your decisions to take some quiet time alone and help you make those plans happen.