“Even five minutes spent in silence will nurture & revive your soul and spirit.” -Doreen Virtue
It’s day 50,953 of quarantine and you have heard “mom!” about 10 billion times since day 1 of this evil version of a stay-cation. Maybe your fuse is a bit shorter than it was last year. Maybe you call the closet the “teacher’s lounge”. Maybe you are doing everything possible to survive.
So are we. You are not alone. We are united in motherhood.
We have all felt lost, overwhelmed, and manic. And mama, that’s ok! It is normal to feel a bit underwater right now. But you need to find a healthy coping strategy.
Sure, other blogs and people are telling you to “just find you-time”. Um… ok, but when are you going to do that while balancing all of the other things? New habits are hard to start. While we are not asking for 5-, 10-, or 15-minutes of your day, we understand that taking a few moments to focus on yourself can be difficult.
Mama, start small & weave some of this coveted me-time into your typical daily activities. Just 2-minutes of you-time each day can make you feel empowered and calm. Here are some ways to do it:
1. Tune Out
While you are doing chores like laundry or dishes, listen to your favorite playlist, a podcast, or your Audible account. We all have to accomplish the home-life work, so you may as well make it enjoyable. Of course, please only do this if you know your kiddos are occupied and safe.
Need a way to keep the kiddos occupied and learning for a few moments? Try our free Story Time with Mrs. Susan on Thursdays at 9:30 or her library of recordings. Learn more here.
2. Lather, Rinse, & Repeat
A shower is a perfect way to cleanse your hair and body – so why not your mind as well? At the beginning of your shower, decide what you want to be for the rest of the day or night & create a mantra of “I am…..”. If you want to feel more energized, say to yourself “I am recharged” and repeat that to yourself as you lather in soap. If you want to feel calmer, say to yourself “I am peaceful”. The key is repetition – keep repeating this to yourself as you lather, rinse, and repeat. As the soap is washing you clean, you are working to establish powerful pathways in your mind. It sounds silly right now, but we challenge you to try it for a week before you dismiss it.
3. Take 3
All-day long, before you eat or drink anything, close your eyes and take three deep belly breaths. Feel your lungs expand. Focus on the pull and push of your breath. Relax your shoulders. Just sit. You do not have to constantly be doing something. We are human BEings, not human DOers. Now, sip your coffee or eat your lunch. Yes, you should do this before you steal those leftover chicken nuggets off your kiddo’s plate…
4. Feel It
Your body is extraordinary. It functions without your consciousness being aware. While you are walking, pay attention to your feet and how they feel as you step and roll through them. Focus on your arms, gently swinging at your side. Feel your neck lengthen as you lift the crown of the head to the sky.
While you are sitting, focus on your spine, where it may be rounding or arching, and how the seat feels against your back.
While exercising, pay attention to each movement with the same focus that you have been practicing with eating. What does each repetition feel like? How is your body connected to the equipment or the floor? How does the sweat feel on your skin?
Take a few moments to really feel your body & listen to what it is experiencing.
5. Celebrate Yourself
What is just one amazing thing that YOU did today for yourself? Did you choose a healthy meal over fast food? Did you ask for help when you needed it? Did you say no to another glass of wine? Celebrate yourself, mama.
You don’t have to write this down in a physical journal. Write it on a post-it & store it on your nightstand, text them to a loved one, keep a list on your phone, or email it to yourself for future keeping. Before bed, take a moment to reflect & high-five yourself. You deserve it.