There is a quote from Leslie M. McIntyre that I have carried with me for years: “Nobody objects to a woman being a good writer or sculptor or geneticist if at the same time she manages to be a good wife, good mother, good-looking, good-tempered, well-groomed, and unaggressive.” A work occurrence that happened last week reminded me of this.
Let’s face it, trying to do it all and be it all is exhausting. It is difficult to be well-groomed when you have messy kids. It’s hard to be good-tempered when we have deadlines at work and at home. How are we expected to be perfect and do #allthethings (stealing that from a friend)? It’s insane.
There is no other group of people in this society who try harder than women to meet the expectations of others. You guys know I am right. As a result, we are always looking outside of ourselves for validation. While we are always trying to be what others think/want us to be, we can lose ourselves. We keep running from one task to another and eventually, we forget to breathe. We can get so wrapped up in the idea of being the perfect person, that we forget that we have a support system. That system is there to help, especially when you may feel the most overwhelmed.
Although there is so much to do during the day that we become overextended, we also have the problem of procrastination. We are often too busy and overworked that we let a deadline approach (or push projects back to that deadline) and then hastily cram until it is finished. And I get it; there are some days when it is impossible to lift my arms or get one more task finished. These are the black periods of self-castigation.
It is important to remember that we become powerless when we procrastinate because we are setting ourselves up for failure. We all know that we feel the most overwhelmed when there are so many things to do at once; by adding more tasks to that list by procrastinating, we are making our future-self more exhausted.
So, don’t tap dance with procrastination. As for help to get it done. You are not an island. You cannot survive doing it all alone. And really I am typing this more to myself than to you.
So I want to know: How do you reach out for help? Do you ask your significant other to help more at home? Do you ask co-workers to collaborate on a task that is kicking your booty? Share your tricks to not feeling overextended.
Do you scurry from task to task, feeling like you aren’t really accomplishing anything? Do you come home from work feeling tired, lacking energy and ready to collapse in front of the TV?
That’s how many of us have come to know life. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
We need to find a way to work smarter, not harder.
The way to elicit real change is to start from the inside out. We have to change the way we THINK before we can change what we do. It’s time to take control of our minds.
So where should we start? Our first step is to begin being mindful of our thoughts and reactions. And the best news is we are here to help.
In the free 10 Days of Moving Towards Mindfulness you will experience:
• A daily mindfulness tip (mind)
• A daily FLOW (body)
• A daily meditation exercise (spirit)
During these 10 days, you will work towards a renewed mind and spirit with a fresh and awakened energy that allows you to have more focus throughout your day.
Are you ready to take a fresh new lease on life?
Join Shawna Brandenburg and me for our free 10 Days of Moving Towards Mindfulness facebook group. How? Register below. We start October 16th. See you there.